I will love her for the rest of my life.
So the time has come for a hard, sad announcement. I do not post relationship issues on line so this may seem sudden and out of the blue for you. I apologize for that. After thirteen years and more adventures and misadventures than I can count, Jen and I ending our marriage partnership. While I’m very aware of the problems that have brought us here, I’m also equally aware of just how much this relationship has changed my life. When I met Jen, I was a practicing Christian still struggling with women and gay rights issues. Jen’s influence and willingness to speak out on things brought me a long way in my progressive politics, my feminism, my atheism, my views on alternative lifestyles and marriage, my writing. She’s inspired a bucket of songs and stories and characters over the years. And most importantly, she brought Lizzy and Rachel into my life and they have given me a continent of love to explore that I never imagined possible. I know myself well enough to say that I will love her for the rest of my life.
We have told Lizzy and Rae and we are getting them all of the support they need as we go through this transition. We may not be able to be good partners for one another but I believe we can be exceptional parenting partners and am committed to learning how to co-parent with Jen. This week, I am moving the last of my things into my new house about a mile away. I have worked hard for several months to create a welcoming home for me to parent Lizzy and Rae in half time. Now that they’ve seen it, they are also packing baskets of toys, books, movies and games that will live at their new house with Daddy. Today, I am moving the Den of Ken so that I can get it set up and get back to work on the book. Tonight, me and the girls have a slumber party there.
Through all of the stress of this last several months, I’ve continued to see remarkable results from my last treatment. Self care is keeping me steady and I’ve yet to experience a PTSD triggering from these very challenging times. I’ve still managed to get some work done despite high stress.
You will not see me posting much about the relationship or details but there will be pics drifting in of the New Den of Ken as it comes together. Most of you who know me know that I’d much rather get a private message than a public post from my tribe during times like these. I ask that you keep us in your thoughts, meditations, prayers (preferably to deities of lawful good or true neutral alignment), sensitivity and support as we move through this change.
There are already several people who deserve heroic praise for their help during this time. No names named but you all know who you are.